What’s a Divorce Coach?February 12, 2024 7:58 pm Comments Off on What’s a Divorce Coach?
Ending your marriage may be one of the most time-consuming, detail-driven, draining, and confusing things you ever do.
Your divorce can touch just about every aspect of your life – everything from your health insurance to your son’s 8th birthday party. Fortunately, getting divorced is something that most of us do only once. The down-side to this one-time reality is that without prior experience divorcing people often fall into upheaval. If you find that you need more support and/or information than your neutral mediator can provide a Divorce Coach may be the right answer.
Your Divorce Coach will help YOU:
- see the big picture and the hidden power dynamics
- put together an interdisciplinary team of experts and advisors
- create an easy-to-follow path through rough terrain
- gather essential information
- decide which divorce process is best for you
- evaluate your day-to-day and long-term options
- move through the process as smoothly as possible
- avoid the mistakes divorcing people commonly make
- use the cold hard facts about the financial and legal realities of divorce to achieve your best results
- do the divorce math, get your finances in shape, and best spend your divorce dollars
- save your sanity
- avoid sabotaging or jeopardizing your future
- protect your children from divorce’s detrimental effects
- avoid becoming a victim of divorce PTSD
- achieve an emotionally and financially successful divorce
- find your best outcomes for every facet (parenting, financial, legal strategy, etc.) of your divorce
- explore your prospects
- define and refine your goals and the strategy you will use to reach them
- organize your paperwork
- access the documents, facts, and figures, you need
- prevent costly mistakes
- plan for rebuilding your life post-divorce, and moving forward to a healthy and happy future.
Your Divorce Coach can provide you with:
- a safe, private, and inexpensive place to vent
- support so that you can keep your friends, family members, children, and new significant other (and their emotional baggage) out of the mix.
- an objective, thinking brain, when your emotions get the best of you
- a vision for your life post-divorce
Over the last decade there has been some significant buzz about the process of divorce coaching. Here are some recent examples:
- Storey Jones’ post on Arianna Huffington’s ThriveGlobal website entitled “Why Your First Call Should Be to a Divorce Coach: How a new kind of professional can transform the divorce process.” https://thriveglobal.com/stories/why-your-first-call-should-be-to-a-divorce-coach
- Ann Gold Bushcho, PhD’s post on Psychology Today’s website entitled “Why Would Anyone Need a Divorce Coach? Here Are 7 Reasons.” (Subtitle “What is a Divorce Coach? How do I know if I need one?”). https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/better-divorce/202012/why-would-anyone-need-divorce-coach-here-are-7-reasons
- Alix Strauss’s New York Times (Style section) article, March 10, 2022, entitled “It’s a Good Time to Be a Relationship Coach: Whether dating or divorcing, people are turning to coaches for their goal-oriented approach, which can deliver structure and achievements at a time when both may be lacking.” https://www.nytimes.com/2022/03/10/style/relationship-coaches.html
- Christine Michel Carter’s Forbes.com post from June 2, 2023 entitled “Divorce Coaches: The Wellness Benefit That Can Save Employers Billions.” https://www.forbes.com/sites/christinecarter/2023/06/02/divorce-coaches-the-wellness-benefit-that-can-save-employers-billions/?sh=5a75d4c6420e
Ultimately, Divorce Coaches help their clients (1) evaluate day-to-day options and best outcomes regarding every aspect (parenting, financial, etc.) of their divorces, (2) explore their options for going through the divorce process including retaining attorneys, mediators, and/or other professionals, and (3) plan for rebuilding their lives post-divorce.
When looking for a divorce coach you want to make sure your coach is knowledgeable in all aspects of the divorce process. If you aren’t selective you could wind up with a divorce coach whose only experience is having been divorced. Divorce Coaches at The Divorce Coach Institute have all undergone an extensive Divorce-Education program in addition to Basic Coach Training. They engage in on-going peer coaching and have opportunities to consult with other professionals so that they stay up-to-date on the latest trends and laws. Talk to any of the Divorce Coaches listed on this site and find the right Coach for you. (Click Here To Find A Coach)