Recent blog posts

  • Divorce Vultures

    August 28th, 2013

    A former student recently sent the following email to me.  This is an example of why I am on a mission to carry the message that there is a better way to go through the process of divorce. “I have a… View Article

  • A Lesson Learned From Brooke, Cat, Rabbit, and Fox.

    August 22nd, 2013

    This story comes from my friend and colleague Brooke Deratany Goldfarb. Brooke has a law degree from Harvard but rather than use her degree in the traditional sense she chose to practice as a family mediator and collaborative lawyer in Indialantic,… View Article

  • After A Break-up – With No Kids – Is It OK To Stay In Touch With The Ex’s Family?

    August 15th, 2013

    Q:  After A Break-up – with no kids – is it OK to stay in touch with the Ex’s family? A:  It depends. There is no one-size-fits-all answer for all break-ups but here are some general guide lines. If you… View Article

  • 7 Tips For Creating A Successful Second Marriage

    August 8th, 2013

    Second marriages fail at an alarmingly high rate. No surprise. Second marriages are generally loaded with conflict triggers. Kids, in-laws, joint and individual finances, and inner-circle loyalties shoot arrows from all directions at the re-married couple. And, once you’ve been… View Article

  • Post Divorce Conflict

    August 1st, 2013

    Recently I was asked a question about using therapy as a mechanism to end the on-going conflict that many co-parents experience post divorce. While I am licensed as a therapist, I don’t practice therapy – only mediation.  I do believe… View Article

  • Alimony Question

    July 25th, 2013

    Dear Elinor, My wife and I have divided our assets, we have a plan for sharing time with our children, and know what we want to do about money after out divorce. But we have not put anything in writing…. View Article

  • With Time – Often – The Worst Thing That Happens Is Also The Best

    July 18th, 2013

    The worst thing about divorce is it forces us to look at ourselves and our lives. Then we have to make some decisions and choose a path into the unknown – this can be very scary. The best thing about… View Article

  • Don’t Fall Prey To Petraeus: Affair-Proof Your Marriage Now

    November 19th, 2012

    I’ve spent the last 25 years studying marriage and divorce. So I’m watching the David Petraeus’s affair saga unfold with professional curiosity as well as prurient interest.  Politics aside, I think I have the whole thing figured out. The day… View Article

  • Tom Cruise, Katie Holmes, Divorce, TMZ

    July 7th, 2012

    Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes are in the news.  Its going to be their call.  Divorce is difficult enough. Do they make it more difficult than it has to be?  Lets hope they are able to send a positive example… View Article

  • Kim, Kris, and The Fight

    February 7th, 2012

    TMZ is reporting that Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries are locked in a battle over what to call the end of their marriage. Is it a divorce or an annulment? In the end, it really doesn’t matter so how do… View Article