Recent blog posts

  • 7 Tips For Creating A Successful Second Marriage

    August 8th, 2013

    Second marriages fail at an alarmingly high rate. No surprise. Second marriages are generally loaded with conflict triggers. Kids, in-laws, joint and individual finances, and inner-circle loyalties shoot arrows from all directions at the re-married couple. And, once you’ve been… View Article

  • Post Divorce Conflict

    August 1st, 2013

    Recently I was asked a question about using therapy as a mechanism to end the on-going conflict that many co-parents experience post divorce. While I am licensed as a therapist, I don’t practice therapy – only mediation.  I do believe… View Article

  • Alimony Question

    July 25th, 2013

    Dear Elinor, My wife and I have divided our assets, we have a plan for sharing time with our children, and know what we want to do about money after out divorce. But we have not put anything in writing…. View Article

  • With Time – Often – The Worst Thing That Happens Is Also The Best

    July 18th, 2013

    The worst thing about divorce is it forces us to look at ourselves and our lives. Then we have to make some decisions and choose a path into the unknown – this can be very scary. The best thing about… View Article

  • Don’t Fall Prey To Petraeus: Affair-Proof Your Marriage Now

    November 19th, 2012

    I’ve spent the last 25 years studying marriage and divorce. So I’m watching the David Petraeus’s affair saga unfold with professional curiosity as well as prurient interest.  Politics aside, I think I have the whole thing figured out. The day… View Article

  • Tom Cruise, Katie Holmes, Divorce, TMZ

    July 7th, 2012

    Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes are in the news.  Its going to be their call.  Divorce is difficult enough. Do they make it more difficult than it has to be?  Lets hope they are able to send a positive example… View Article

  • Kim, Kris, and The Fight

    February 7th, 2012

    TMZ is reporting that Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries are locked in a battle over what to call the end of their marriage. Is it a divorce or an annulment? In the end, it really doesn’t matter so how do… View Article

  • An Open Letter To Kim Kardashian

    November 3rd, 2011

    Dear Kim, Marriage is difficult and every marriage presents challenges. In your marriage the stress of celebrity made the path even harder. Sadly, in our society there is no real marriage preparation. Why? Well, when the pre-marital hormones are running… View Article

  • Expectation Management and Divorce

    September 25th, 2011

      When our expectations are in-check we are usually better prepared for what we encounter.  But, many people going through the transition of divorce have no idea what to expect.  And, not knowing what to expect typically escalates divorce-related stress… View Article

  • Friendly Divorce Trends Discussed in WSJ

    July 12th, 2011

    http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052702303544604576430341393583056.html This article – from Saturday’s Wall Street Journal – provides an excellent explanation of one of the key cultural factors that is fueling the trend away from attorney-driven divorce and towards the more humane and family-friendly approach